The self esteem brigade and the media have a lot to answer for. The platform of the former is to say that we all have the same potential as everyone else. Now this is fine, except for one thing. Talent. People have a talent for writing. A talent for painting. A talent for mathematics. However much I may want to paint like Turner, I could never do it. A few stick figures and that's me, finished!
The latter, television and magazines especially, are guilty of showing us images of 'beautiful people' and telling us that if we drink 'A's' Vodka, or use 'B's' aftershave or smother ourselves with 'C's' perfume, then we'll be just like these dream people.
Now, there's a big difference between knowing and feeling. I know that Mr. Dell knows a great deal more about computers than I. Without any doubt, I know that Mr. Charles Dickens was a much better writer
than I am.
The person who suffers from a true inferiority complex, is the one who thinks he's worse than his peers. Let's assume he's an accountant. He's risen fairly high up in the firm, but for some reason, he feels that his abilities are below those of his associates, even though in fact he's better than most. Furthermore, even with proof laid out before him, he genuinely can't see his superiority, or at least his equality.
Let's first see why you feel inferior. If you had siblings, were you always being told to; 'be more like your brother/sister? Or you're married to someone who's always telling you that 'Bert does all his own house repairs.' First of all, 'like' your brother or sister in what way? Can Bert teach advanced calculus? To say simply that one person's better than another in one specific area, doesn't cut it.
But you say you have an inferiority complex. Let's take it a stage further. You're inferior to whom? The Queen of England? Your Bank manager? Fred who runs the pub on the corner? Be specific. I haven't counted them recently, but there are about 7 billion people in the World. Can you, in all honesty, say that you're inferior to all of them?
Another fault is trying to be like someone else. A bit of hero worship isn't a bad thing in your teens, provided you pick someone worthwhile, but when you're a grown man or woman, be yourself. It's much more natural that way and much more comfy in your skin.
There's one more problem. Being a slave to thoughts like; If only I looked like a (famous body builder). If only I had the gorgeous features of (Ms. Famous Filmstar). Sorry, but they're probably two of the most unpleasant people you're ever likely to meet. The best thing to do is a bit of list-making. Write down all your good points.
You might amaze yourself
It was the famous Scottish poet, Robert Blake, who pleaded; 'Would that God the gift had given us/ To see ourselves as others see us.' It sounds rather different in the Scottish dialect! But that rather hits the nail on the head. We strongly recommend a visit to Mike Bond's website, http://www.wealthyoldman.com, where you'll find so much written on psychology and hypnosis
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